How to work through creative aversion?
“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” ― Steve Jobs
Aversion is an uncomfortable emotion. It is an emotional response to a situation that should or shouldn’t be avoided. Aversion is a road block to achieving what you want to achieve. It blocks out all creativity, joy, abundance, love and welcomes in frustration, ignorance, chaos, avoidance and self doubt.
When struggling with aversion to creativity, writing, meditation or even life, it is important to be compassionate and not blame yourself or others. So how do we work through creative aversion?
Take responsibility for your own thoughts, actions and beliefs
When aversion appears it is important to listen to your inner guide and not let your inner critic drive your fears. Be compassionate to how you are feeling and notice what it is that is causing your creative aversion. Find a quiet place and start to question yourself. Take the time to write down your answers on a piece of paper or in your journal.
- How am I feeling?
- What is feeling unpleasant?
- Am I scared?
- What am I scared of?
- Am I overwhelmed?
- What is bothering me?
- How can I let go?
- Am I holding on to uanessacry fears?
Start to notice when creative aversion appears. Where are you? What are you doing? What has triggered it? Is it in meditation, washing the dishes, writing a blog, needing to talk to someone, or even painting a canvas? Allowing yourself to stop and notice, creates an awareness but it also allows you to track your thoughts and actions. During the week take the time to write down what has triggered it.
“Building confidence comes from overcoming the voice in your head that says you are not capable; silence the noise and then prove it wrong.” ― Sam Owen
Once an awareness around your creative aversion has been formed, it can be challenging just to let it go. You may find yourself attached and unable just drop it. When you find yourself stuck in creative aversion mud, turn to the list you made over the week and reread them. It is time to let go of your creative aversion fears.
- Find a quiet place to sit, pay attention to your breath, your body, and what is around you. Be present.
- In letting go of your creative aversion, notice what your mind is doing. If your mind is busy and keeps running away from the present moment with no judgement, return to your breath and just let it go. As you practice letting go, you allow water to wash away the creative aversion mud and allow yourself to let go of any attachments, stories and narratives that you have been telling yourself.
- After a while your creative aversion mud is not thick and heavy but just water which is just washing over you.
In beginning to cultivate compassion start with self compassion. Start by releasing any old self judgements by talking kindly to yourself “You’re doing a really great job and I know its difficult and you’re allowed to feel frustrated and annoyed and that It is okay, we all have experiences like this. You are allowed to struggle.” Talking to ones self in a calm voice soothes worries and fears but aids in comfort and allows you to understand what is happening. Be your own best friend and praise yourself for what you have achieved and accomplished.
“Beautify your inner dialogue. Beautify your inner world with love light and compassion. Life will be beautiful.” ― Amit Ray
Be comfortable with being good enough
Realise that it is ok to have off days or even off weeks but you’re good enough the way you are. Life can be unpredictable, frustrating, beautiful and joyful all in one day. Being aware of your actions, emotions and thoughts (even if they aren’t as up lifting as normal) It is ok! By inviting in self acceptance and self forgiveness allows yourself to be compassionate and gentle to ones creative self.
In showing self acceptance to yourself:
- Write out and celebrate your strengths and positive qualities
- Let go of judgements
- Listen to your inner guide
- Be grateful for who you are and what you offer
- Surround yourself with your tribe and like minded friends
- Invest in your physical/emotional/spiritual health
In showing self forgiveness to yourself:
- Write a list of what creative regrets, fears and triggers which your are holding on to. Do you blame yourself? Or another person?
- The past is the past and not the present moment
- Take responsibility for who you are, your thoughts, actions and words
- Acknowledged that you did the best you could do at that time
- Write to yourself (you may send it yourself or burn it). Affirm that at the time you did the best you could have possibly done, you’re forgiving yourself and moving forward with your life.
Creative aversion doesn’t last forever and once you are aware of your behaviours, patterns and attachments you can accept, let go, show compassion and move forward with being entered, confident and creative.
“Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, stop caring about what others think.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Much love and gratitude,
If you’re still lacking creative inspiration and creatively blocked a take a look at the brilliant animation created by my friends Seamus and Fionn (Aged 13) about writers block.